“Since parents are the most significant fixture in a child’s environment, perhaps it should come as no surprise that when a parent changes, so too does a child’s wiring. Research has established that, oftentimes, when kids are struggling, it is not therapy for the child himself but coaching or therapy for the parent that leads to the most significant changes in the child. This is powerful research, because it suggests that a child’s behavior — which is an expression of a child’s emotion regulation patterns — develops in relation to a parent’s emotional maturity.”
— from “Good Inside,” by Becky Kennedy.

Working on our parenting is a hopeful belief in the future, and a healing experience for both ourselves and our children. The experience of parenting regularly reminds us, consciously and unconsciously, of our experiences and relationships as a child. Your unique experiences and personality shape how you react and relate to your unique child. Without support, it can be difficult to transcend those experiences and be the parent and partner you want to be. With support, I have seen clients experience a tremendous amount of healing about their own painful experiences by feeling more influence over how those experiences play out in the present. With support, I have seen clients give their children the emotional skills and foundation for true resilience in the present and future.